My 11-year relationship with my fianc is over.
Together we built a mega house on a lake as our leisure home. Due to his weak credit, he could not afford a coffee pot. As a 44-year-old employee who is now retired, my credit has allowed me to buy whatever I want.
She inherited $ 1 million nine years into our relationship after her mother’s death. Because we were getting married (or so I thought) we did all the transactions only in my name. In two years, he has paid $ 437,000 in mortgages. I also contributed.
I was told to leave after the house was finished, and there was no profit in settling our business differences. I asked for $ 7,600 for something I wanted to repay, and he refused.
A few days after I left our home, I received a clearance claim from his attorney, asking me to sign. I refused, and hired an attorney to deal with the division of our assets. All of these transactions occurred in the state of Tennessee.
I did a background check on my fiance and found her to be a complete cheater and liar. I tried harder than to be fair to this woman but since she didn’t pretend to be this person, I was more than angry.
I came out and after a forensic background check and audit discovered that he said he was married to a prominent businessman, but he wasn’t. I found that her real husband was a “nobody”, probably like me.
I also noticed that the land sold from there where he inherited was less than 80 acres – not 1,500 acres. He lied about his age and college education, had several past lawsuits and owed more than 30 30,000 to the IRS.
She knows my friends
She has multiple friends on Facebook that I have never heard of. The part that bothers me the most is that he introduced her to me through my friends at Lake House, including my oldest friend of 50 years.
Therefore, I am reluctant to sign the deed. Our lawyers have written a few letters back, but it seems that a lawsuit has to be filed to settle the matter. Can you and your audience please give me your opinion?
I am now seeking half of the assessed value of the property. It could have been resolved at, 7,600 if agreed. Now, because of his greed and selfishness, I think he needs to be taught a lesson and put down.
My attorneys are filing a petition to share the property.
What is your opinion in this situation?
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First, a caveat: a court will consider the contribution of each party. You won’t say what you contributed, but if your ex-girlfriend earns the lion’s share of the income, don’t rely on your high credit score so you can pay court leverage to split the property 50/50.
“The court will consider what is fair to each party, and in particular for a split action, the court will consider how much each co-owner has contributed to down payments, mortgage payments, taxes, rent, and other assets or services provided,” Rabinovich said. According to the Sokolov Law Group.
We have spent a lifetime trying to understand our own motivations and personalities; How do we know what is going on in the minds of others? Helpless to draw someone as a villain. People are notoriously unexpected. We put our trust in them – and they put their trust in us – and sometimes everyone is disappointed.
Trolling her Facebook and annoying her with pictures will only make you more excited. Perhaps you want to feel that anger, and those updates help you channel it quickly and satisfactorily. But after a while, it becomes toxic – for you. Concentrating on bringing other people down is a self-destructive and unhealthy way of survival. Bring yourself up instead.
The last resort
It’s time to move on to the next level of grief: acknowledge that you are better off without this woman and hope that you can move on when you sell this property – and, assuming your name is on the deed, divide it 50/50. Your attorney will advise you on partition action, a restrained and logical next step for you.
Artemis Family Law Group says, “Partition actions are a unique alternative to an end in case of extinction.” “When the property is jointly owned by more than one person, and an issue arises where the co-owners cannot decide together what to do with the property together, one of the owners can file a partition action in court.”
“The court has the power to order the sale of property at a public auction, but the parties may agree to a private sale,” the law firm added. “However, a public auction can be a very risky option because there is no guarantee that the house will be sold in a certain amount. It will only sell to the highest bidder, whatever the amount.”
But Artemis notes that a public auction will limit your options. “It will only sell to the highest bidder, whatever the amount. And moreover, any lien or mortgage on the property must be satisfied from the proceeds of the sale, before that money is shared among the co-owners. ”
From what you are saying, it seems that your ex-fianc has contributed more to the repayment of the mortgage. Whether or not that is the case, the partition action will resolve the case and the judge will rule on it. You will be forced to accept the results and price obtained for the lake house at auction.
Past, present and future
The bigger challenge will come later. You need to stop trying to control the past (false or misrepresentation of your fianc)), the present (his friendship with your friend and ex-friends) and the future. Block him on Facebook FB,
His life will not be your business anytime soon. This will be the greatest reward of all.
You say your ex-fianc had a terrible credit score, and great stories were cut from his own past. Have they influenced or tempted you? What can you learn from this experience? I truly believe that we continue to suffer from some experience or relationship because we did not learn from it.
What red flags there are – there are always red flags – you may be ignored, and you may ask where and why you might disappoint your guards. When you look at your part, move on with your life when it’s done and dusted off. Otherwise, you will still be at home on that lake with your ex-fianc.
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